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| I've decided to come back online and blog, although it's no longer going to be on xanga =P
I've moved to wordpress.com, where it gives you a lot more freedom with your blog.
So, I'll put a link here (or a few cuz I'm doing more than one now):
My personal blog: ryisnne.wordpress.com
My girlfriend's and my joint blog: amairain.wordpress.com
A style website in progress, might even turn it into a business as well: www.stylexplained.com
Join wordpress! You can import your blog as well >=)
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| Xanga... haven't touched this thing in ages. Maybe I should. It's kind of fun to have a record of stuff you've done.
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| 笑。
I feel as if our current relationship is like that between girl in high school who's dating a college guy and her father.
The father reprimands his daughter with her best interests in mind, firmly believing that relationship will come to no good end. He doesn't know the guy, he's never seen the two interact before, but is that even important?
The daughter tries to explain things to her father but he doesn't listen or doesn't believe her, firmly convinced that a high school girl couldn't possibly know what's good for her compared to him - an adult with many more years of life experience. She feels that there is nothing wrong with her choice to be with this guy, and won't meet her father's demands.
Most of the time, the father tends to be right. Not always, but most of the time.
But, is that even the point?
Humans are stubborn animals. They'll do a lot of illogical things for pride or respect.
The daughter is fully aware that most of the time her father is probably right in what he says. But it is a complete blow to her pride to accept the fact that her entire relationship is a mistake from someone who knows nothing about the specifics of her relationship. All she really wants is for her father to listen to her and at least consider the possibility that maybe her choice has not been a mistake. And if he does take into consideration everything that has happened and still feels that she is wrong based on her unique situation, then she feels at least she is being given the respect due to an independent person, and probably will listen to her father.
The father feels that his daughter isn't giving him his due respect by not obeying, although all he really wants is for her to understand her situation so she can avoid making mistakes that have serious consequences that she is better off not having to experience if it's unnecessary.
A very common situation, no? I think ours is quite similar, am I wrong?
Now then, how do the two reconcile and work things out?
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| What exactly does it mean for a person to be mature, nowadays?
Here are dictionary.com's definitions:
2. Of, relating to, or characteristic of full development, either mental or physical: mature for her age.
3. a.Suitable or intended for adults: mature subject matter.
b.Composed of adults: a mature audience.
4. Worked out fully by the mind; considered: a mature plan of action.
The dictionary definition doesn't give out a specific description of a person who is mature. Although if you imagine what a mature person is like, I'm sure you will be able to come up with a few adjectives that can describe that person. But does that mean that in order to be mature, one must fit that definition?
Indeed, people coined as mature do seem to show many smiliar traits that probably match with what most people define as a mature person, but as a result the term 'mature person' is now a simple replacement of a few adjectives that describe the image of a person who people believe to be mature.
Composed, logical, responsible, patient, forgiving, calculated... These are all words people might use to describe a mature person. Of course, there are reasons why most people think the same thing. These are basically the things that are the opposite of what people might describe as childlike: wild, illogical, irresponsible, impulsive, unforgiving, spontaneous...
Within these lists of adjectives, some fit into the actual dictionary definition of mature, such as 'calculated.' Truly, the ability to full think things out before taking any action is something that adults can do much better than young children. The ability to think out situations naturally leads to other similar character traits. For example, being responsible will take a person a long way in their relationship with others. And thus if a 'calculated,' or mature person is given a choice, he will very likely choose to be responsible as opposed to not.
So what, then, is a calculated person who, after much thought, chooses to be different from what is expected? In this case he chooses to be irresponsible. Is he illogical? Misled? Is he immature?
Look at a different example: riding a roller coaster. I suppose the popular image of the 'mature' person would calmly sit through the ride, while the 'immature' person will scream his lungs out just for fun. Is one person really all the more mature than the other? A calculated person can easily decide that keeping quiet while on the ride completely ruins the fun of the roller coaster, and so he'll scream.
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| Club dancing, etc.
Here's a huge tip I picked up from talking to someone I just met.
As a guy, your objective while dancing is the make the girl look good.
When you do that, all the other girls get jealous cuz she's hot, all the guys do cuz she's dancing with you, and of course both of you feel great.
(also, "If you do that, then the girl will go home with you.")
He learned that from some old guy while he was still living in Puerto Rico. Probably some perverted old guy. A smooth, experienced, pimp perverted old guy.
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